Hi Pomegranate! We do have to accept things the way they are and not how we wish they were. I do not have the birth family that I wish that I had and I have come to accept that. We are distant. What I did was build up a life very seperate from them. I now have my own little wonderful family and I guess I try to build "family" all the time! Someone told me this once. She said that people who did not have a good family frequently keep trying to build new families. Yes, I am guilty of this! I try to build families everywhere! My neighborhood, my child's school, my community, and here...........