Well it sounds like he's been very clear to you about what HE wants: dancing, drinking, and enjoying life. Does not sound like he's interested in a relationship and all the responsibilities that go along with it.

From what you say it sounds like you really are not able to be yourself around him. You can't tell him your problems, that you lost your job!? That's not a friend. It sounds like he is just distracting you from what you need to be concentrating on, finding a job.

Once you find a job and get your life more stable you might want to rethink what you want from a relationship. Do you just want "drinking, dancing and enjoying life?" Someone who does not have an interest in being there for you when things go wrong, you get sick, problems come up?

After you find a job, get your life and emotions more stable and figure out what you really want and need from a relationship, THEN you can go looking for someone who is compatible with you. You deserve better!