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Apr 07, 2009, 01:27 AM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
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I am going through tough times with my Mother at this point in my life, and we are not talking much. We have always been very close and enmeshed in eachother's lives, but since I've been in therapy for my depression and PTSD, I am beginning to see just how emotionally absent and abusive she was to me and my brother. I don't want to do it, but I feel I may at some point have to cut ties with her in order to become a more healthy person.
I don't have much advice for you. I just wanted to let you know that I have an understanding of what you might be feeling, and that you're not alone.
I read some of the other posts on this topic and I do feel I need to speak up and voice my opinion on something. First let me say that I am not meaning to offend anyone, and I firmly respect everyones right to believe what they believe in. This being said....
I do not think that a person (child or adult) should feel obligated to tolerate any form of abuse or neglect from a parent, or anyone in general, because they were taught to "fear God", or because it is their duty to take care of that person. If a parent is toxic to you, it is your right and duty to yourself to step back and maintain a healthy environment for yourself. As far as I am concerned, teaching a child, even an adult child, to fear God is just another tactic of abuse. It is religious manipulation, and I think it is sad.
I do not fear my God. My God does not require that of me.
Take care....
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