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Apr 07, 2009, 03:33 PM
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Member Since: Jun 2007
Location: Chicago, Illinois
Posts: 5,518
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Hi Reach
My son became a handful when he was a teenager, and we were dealing with a lot of issues at home too. We met with a family counselor/psychologist. He met with our son privately, in case our son had any issues to discuss, and he met with us as a family.
It was helpful for all of us to understand the individual burdens we carry and how best to deal with them as a family. It was helpful to have a knowledgeable third party present to give us some helpful advice. My son gained greater insight on what it was we wanted from him and, more importantly, why. We gained greater insight as to why he was being such a brat  and what he needed from us.
I know what it's like to be at your wit's end. I also know what it's like to have a 9-yr-old boy anxious to become a man.  
I hope you'll be able to rekindle your relationship with your husband. If not, you gotta do what you gotta do. It was painful for my sister, but she's recovering and getting back out in the world. 
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