Hey Saluki,
I haven't had as many relationships as you, and especially not as many serious ones, so I'm a lot less experienced with how guys think and act. But with my current boyfriend, we didn't even say "I love you" until four months in. I dont know if you guys are saying it? But that was when I realized we were actually.. together. And serious. And thats when I really began paying attention to how open we are with each other.

My boyfriend isn't very open, likes to keep things to himself, isn't chatty. Overall, he's pretty quiet and keeps all of his emotions inside. When I told him that I felt like he wasn't opening up to me, he was really suprised. He said to me, "I'm doing everything I know how. I tell you everything. I talk to you more than anyone else." So what I"m saying here is.. I agree with Pomegranate, that you might need to give him more time, and be patient. But on the otherhand, he may just be a quiet, keep it to himself type of guy. He might be doing everything he can to communicate with you, but on a subconscious level he's not really aware of he's afraid and holding back.

I hope you feel better soon!
I really enjoy reading your posts

Ro