I've often wondered how my t is outside the office. Not being able to observe her that way, it's easy to imagine she's always cool, in control, happy, compassionate, etc. Yet part of me knows it's not possible for anybody to be that way all the time! She told me recently, "You only see one side of me." I wish I could see more, not to create a dual relationship, but just to experience who she is on a deeper level. I'd like that very much. However, I also know the danger it could present to therapy if I were to find out that t and I differ in some very significant way where our values clashed. Knowing more about her could draw me closer, or it could cause me to pull back some, which would be detrimental to my therapy.