I really believe the person "bleeds through" sometimes during sessions. Or at least I'm pretty sure my T did...One has to be keenly observant and listen carefully, but it's there.

I would never want to put so much pressure on another person (even a T) to want to think of them as perfect. I think in the room, we see their "potential perfection" or the best that they can be. Potential for me is enough. The qualities are there somewhere in them. But I really believe what makes us human are our imperfections. My T has the most tender tone of voice that I've ever heard from a male before, but I know he probably yells sometimes outside of the office, just like anyone else. He's a person too and I appreciate and respect that. I've seen him a couple times outside the office in everyday life and I've made it clear to him that I want him to feel comfortable being himself and living his life. I'd feel badly if I ever thought he was purposely avoiding me so as to not burst my bubble...which I doubt he ever would anyhow.