… I’m not sure how to respond to any of this. Do all of you really think that he would try and drag me around like that? It's not like I text him or call him all the time. Actually, I never text or call him. I let him instigate every conversation (almost). I don't know what his situation with the girl he asked to prom is... when he told me about it he kind of laughed it off like the idea of going with her to prom was silly. Then yesterday when I talked to him (with absolutely no promting on my part) he told me how he doesn't even know if he wants to go to prom at all.
I've been telling another close guy friend of mine (a strictly internet relationship that's been going on for five years) about the whole situation, and he thinks that J (my ex) does like me and is just not ready to be in a serious relationship. I tend to at least trust his opinion a little, because they are similar guys, and my internet friend is going through some issues of feeling trapped by a relationship.
The biggest reason why I'm having trouble with the thought of just not hanging around J for a while is that we're now in our last couple of months of high school. If I stop being his close friend now, it is entirely possible that I might never see him again after we all move away... plus I only see him once a week, at most, anyway. I'm not going to lie and say that I don't have romantic feelings for him still, but I also continue to have the friendship feelings/mental attraction that I've had with him since the begining.
He is more similar to me than anyone else I've ever met. I just get where he's coming from with everything. Even the not wanting a relationship thing. I understand why he thinks the way that he does... And yes, I do have other friends, lots of them actually, but none of them are as comfortable for me to be around as him. I just don't feel awkward. I never feel as if there is anything that I can't say to him...
With all of that new information, do your opinions stand as they were?
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