Well, that bubble burst for me and now I see T as a caring and compassionate person who often goes out of his way to accommodate my needs. I still love him, even though he has snapped at me. Because of his disclosures and the fact that I know someone who knew him (although I didn't ask her anything) I have a sense of him as someone with a wife and children and a life outside of the office. AND I STILL think of him as someone who is "happy" all the time, engaging in life. Go figure. I know it's a myth but I just have this "happy T" mental image.