{{{{{{{{Ozzie}}}}}}}}}
Don't have any words of wisdom to offer ... just ... that really sucks.
It sounds like being trapped with an abuser. Constantly seeking to push your buttons. And after that long he probably knows where to find all of them, too.

So what happens when he succeeds -- does he then point his finger at you and criticize YOU for YOUR attitudes, reactions, etc.? What seems to be the actual point or goal of his behavior, other than, obviously, to upset and anger you?