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Originally Posted by salukigirl
honestly...chances are you wont see about 90% of your friends after graduation. I am only friends with maybe 2 or 3 people that i was friends with in high school. Its not like you guys were married with children....it was a high school relationship that you will get over about 2 months after freshman yr of college starts. I understand that it feels real and important now but trust me, you are not going to care later on. He is not worth it. They never are. Because if they were worth it, they wouldn't do that kind of thing to you in the first place.
The only ones who should be worth the fight are the ones who wont make you fight for them. Think about it that way. Give it up, its not that big of a deal. And I'm sorry but he's a high school BOY. Wait until you find one that's grown out of his immature "I'm not ready for a relationship" stage before you go fretting over a guy. If he's pulling this stuff then he's not mature enough for you anyways so don't waste your time. Sorry if that sounds harsh but that's how it goes sometimes. I think it's time to get over him and move on.
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Honestly, right off the bat this response offended me... I spent most of the night thinking about a way to reply to it in a calm way, while still getting my feelings out there. Now with the light of a new day I can think more calmly.
The first thing I would like to say is that even though it is a "highschool relationship" right now that doesn't mean that it isn't important to me, or him. I have actually attempted to end the friendship a couple of times, and he didn't want me to and didn't let me. Those attempts were because of my own insecurites, not really anything he did. The "things that he did to me" were as follows:
- Pushed me into sexual things I wasn't ready for.
- Which, truthfully, I was not vocal enough about when it mattered. I gave him no reason to think that it was as serious as it felt to me. I am very very bad at expressing my feelings.
- Made me feel rejected and wierd when I invited him to things.
- He was high when I texted him about it. Now I've learned to tell the difference between him not caring, and him just not knowing what's going on.
Those are both things that I can forgive him for, and things by which he in no way meant to hurt me.
Secondly, he does not make me "fight for him". I am a withdrawn person. If anything I make him fight for me on occasion. Also, I know that he is just a boy, but I am just a
girl. I don't know if I want a serious relationship. I definitely know I don't want a standard normal relationship. A big problem between me and him was how he thought I wanted more out of a relationship than I really do. Also, I intensely dislike maturity, or at least I dislike the kind of maturity people think that I'm supposed to have. I have been known to act with much more "maturity" and care than most adults (my mom, my grandma, and other family members/teachers) who tell me to be mature in the first place. I am not including you in this one, just venting now.
I mean no offense by this post to you salukigirl. I just want you to understand the situation a little bit more, because, as I said before, I was offended by your last post to me.