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Originally Posted by wanttoheal
Hi Malady,
It's good to see you back here again. I was sad that you disappeared before and am so glad you're back.
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Awww thank you so much for saying this, it really means a lot to hear from people that remember Mal from before.
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This is awesome information. I have a history of cult abuse and religious abuse among other things. I'm so sorry that you are having to deal with the after affects of all of this.
I hope that you will find a safe place to discuss and disclose. I don't understand why people are sometimes so negative toward others when information is exchanged. I have found for me that sometimes when the experience is not the same as what a person is experiencing, that they are not able to accept that it could be different for another person. I have found this to be so in religion, politics and mental illness especially.
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Wow, yes, definitely. And admittedly, this would be an area Mal needs to work on as well. Its own experiences can be so overwhelming that sometimes it can be difficult to understand someone else's, particularly if theirs exists in an area that one does not tend to put a lot of stock in. But if you ever want to try sharing about some of these things together, feel free to PM.
Mal's experience would be unique in this department .... in a number of ways. Still not sure how much would be safe to share, and TBH it does not want to frighten others who might otherwise be allies but for knowing too much ...
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It can have such a negative impact on us when someone completely discounts our experience, no matter what the topic is.
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*nod*
It hurts very much not to be believed. Even if something bes not real for oneself, it bes very real for the person suffering it. Though sometimes a person can get mistaken for one sort of situation when theirs would be another, and they might feel the need to "distance themselves" from those potential misunderstandings for legitimate reasons of personal safety, know whatta mean? Like, if you know you can have a
severely suggestible frame of mind if certain "key words" or triggers get used in certain ways, sometimes all you can do would be to put up a barrier against that -- and if that barrier inadvertently hurts someone else's feelings, that really sucks, but what else can you do? You can't take a chance on being programmed into things you KNOW bes not the truth of your OWN situation -- yeah? And sometimes everyone and anyone can be a potential "handler" and you'd never know till it bes too late ... y'know?
Again, thank you very, very much for your kindness. It needs support, and sometimes it even wants it (LOL!) and it always appreciates a warm welcome. Blessings to you.