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Originally Posted by lynn P.
Hi Everyone,
I joined this sight about a month ago and shortly after decided to help out answering questions in the Q and A part of this website. I felt happy helping where I could, because I've been through alot in my life and felt I had alot of wisdom to share. Everything was going well and all of us who were answerers got along great and were very supportive of each other. But for the last 2 days a new person joined (her name was WRITEAWAY) and she was very abusive to us and the people asking the questions. She got banned, but the next dat signed in as Meemee and did the same thing. She was particularly mean to me because she felt my answers were to kind so she acused me of beating around the bush. I e-mailed DocJohn and he blocked her again.
This experience has made me feel discouraged. I really enjoyed this sight and found solace in the kindness of the many people here. I guess the old saying is true - that one bad apple can ruin the whole crate. If you guys want to take a look and see all the destruction that WRITEAWAY and MEEmee did then feel free. An easy way to scan her answers would be top click on 'top members' and then click on the name and then go to answers- and it will bring up all her answers. Thanks for listening   |
As someone who has dedicated alot of my time in my life to helping others in many different settings it can be frustrating running into people like this. just try to keep the big picture in mind. If you let that stuff discourage you from helping, then that's one lesshelping soul out there for someone in need. Your mission is larger than one petty individual.
I have done alot of volunteer youth coaching...much of it unpaid. I love helping kids. Ironically I almost never have a problem with the kids, it's usually a parent. Believe me, I know one bad apple could just suck the fun out of an entire season. One time, I was coaching a coach pitch softball team. That is where the coach of the team pitches to his own players. One of the fathers once accused me of striking his son out on purpose!!
I could deal with people questioning my coaching style, techniques, whatever. However to actually suggest that I am conspiring against a kid on my team that I'm trying to help & spend time with that his dad won't do it really got under my skin. Plus, I'm way to competitive...I'm not going to do anything that's going to hurt the teams chances to win.
I had never been so ticked at a parent
That accusation went right at the core of me as a coach, a volunteer & a sportsman
Just sharing to let you know we know how you feel. I will read the posts.
Sometimes, it can be a conflicted person crying out for help & going about it the wrong way. I've personally done that before. I didn't do it joining here but I would intentionally try to turn people away with the worst part of my personality right off the bat. My logic was if they were still their after that then MAYBE I could trust them to stick around.
either way, remember this is a reflection on her, not on you
