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Originally Posted by Rhapsody
Hang in There & Don't Worry - You will become her KING again... once she is out of the trying teen years... I Promise.
I agree with you here and while I (the gr-aunt of this child) believes in an equal amount of love & discipline when rearing any child - his mother catered to him when he was young because his dad was around making their life hell and less than enjoyable... and now it angers me that this once sweet trusting boy is the one that has to suffer... I wish I could have ten minutes along with that man in a room with nothing but the dark and the Hulk on my side.
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Yeah, I must point out something a previous poster said, sorry I don't recall who this second...what ever approach you use, consistency is the key.
You know it's abandoment issues, I know it's abandonment issues but he is not able to emotionally digest & process yet.
His anger for authority figures is directly from feeling let down by them.
I have always had major issues with authority...I have been this very child your talking about. A boy needs a father figure & scum like this disgust me.
Does he have any hobbies? youth sports, or something like that. Something regimented with an expected code of conduct?
Baseball, karate, even football or basketball?
This will give him a healthy outlt for his anger & teach him in a nurturing way cause & effect. Typically these boys respond well to a good coach or instructor...just make sure YOU are comfortable with whoever coaches or instruct...because a bad one could accelerate the damage already done exponentially.
The data that I've seen says that if it is not addressed by 6 or 7 it becomes very much less like to improve as they age...
I don't want to scare you but he is in a crucial formative time now. He needs to learn restraint before testosterone kicks in.
Best of luck, let me know if you try any of the sports, or maybe even boy scouts as an outlet, I really think it can help
