3velnia, I'm sorry your T acted before she got your approval. Maybe she was just responding and just wanted to support your. Is is possible for you to just see her response as maybe an accident with good intentions behind it. We've all done things that we thought would be helpful to others but accidently did more harm than good.

I'm sure if you tell your T how her actions confused and scared you... she will not do it again. Based on what your've posted whe was trying to be helpful and made a mistake. Can you give her a second chance?