We're back to the once a year cycle at my house. You guys with the multiple times per week - hah - you crack me up.

Our marital sex was low compared to most couples. After marriage, about 10 times a year max. My wife's hysterectomy+ovectomy in 2005 happened just as we were getting back into a moderately healthy sexual cycle. Once she had the operation - she didn't take any follow-on hormone treatment. She added 30-40 pounds and tended to complain of back problems. All she wanted to do at night was moan getting into bed, find a comfortable spot and go to sleep. We're at 15 years of marriage this month - pretty young too (mid-40s). I say our sexual life is pathetic, but our family life is pretty good.

I'm someone who never ever pushes for sex. I don't plead, prod or poke. I feel that if a couple is intended to be in a sexual relationship, they're on the same page. They look at each other, sense that, feel it and it happens. Every other woman in my life prior to marriage was like that even after a few years being together. I'm a sexual person - but I am also someone who feels uncompelled to "wrassle it out of someone". Especially with a wife who has chronic back pain, allergies, smokes before bed (yech) and has low hormones, I feel like I'd be doing our marriage a disservice if I was demanding sex.

We've been to couples therapy too, I go to a T weekly. I'm generally happy too. Once I have dropped to this level of sexual activity - I'm pretty much "broken" of the habbit. But give me a highly sexual partner and I'll be whoopin' it up like the rest of you. I know what we're missing and it can be a little lonely sometimes - but, adapting and coping are my best friends these days.