My girlfriend suffers from an array of depression, dissociation, social anxiety, and probably a few other things. When I first met her, she was starting to fall downwards. These days, almost EVERYTHING is a trigger. The one that sticks out the most now, is one of my two cats.

She's fine with my boy (most of the time). He can be really needy, which irks her sometimes, but that's just how he is.

She CANNOT STAND my girl. She was fine with her for the first... 5 or so months. Then we started living together. Since then, my little Fifi has been "the bane of her existence." Recently, in some of her angrier dissociative episodes, she's even threatened Fifi physically, which I refuse to stand for.

Now, she's trying to make me choose between her and my cat. I feel somewhat manipulated here, as I love both dearly and feel like this is NOT a choice I should have to make. She claims that she "just cannot deal with her." The cat does glare at her, but mostly when she and I are having close time together (typical jealous cat behavior). My girlfriend takes it personally, and calls my cat a *****. A couple minutes later, Fifi will even come up and curl up on my girlfriend's lap.

Usually, if there's something she can't handle, I try my best to alter the situation to make it so that she can handle it, but here, I just can't get rid of my cat, and I just can't get rid of her. We're in a studio apartment. The only places she and the cat can be separated are the closet and the bathroom. She hid in the bathroom breaking down, telling me she couldn't come out unless Fifi went away. I shut myself and Fifi in the closet so Fifi wouldn't think she had done something wrong, and apparently my girlfriend went out for a walk (I didn't hear it until she came back in). She told me to come out of the closet, said it was okay for Fifi to come out too... now SHE is in the closet.

This is getting a little ridiculous for me. What on earth do I do here? She says she just can't handle it, but it seems like there isn't a whole lot she CAN handle right now. I feel wrong telling her to "just deal with it," but how much more can I let this go on?

Help anyone? x.x

~TheDeliciousDish