Hi hon.

You know, I think its really GOOD that you haven't had sex yet.

Personally, I started at 13, and by the time I was your age I had had.. well, lets say over 50(yep, that bad) partners in my belt. I was WAY to immature to know what I was doing and was doing it for all the wrong reasons. You on the other hand, have a bit more life experience, and although it will be scary your first time, you will more likely be doing it for the right reasons

As for the first time - my advice is, try to relax. If you are not grossed out by masturbation or exploring yourself, do learn more about yourself so you know what you like and whatnot. It may hurt a tiny bit the first time, but its not terrible, i promise. And soon after, it starts feeling good, so its worth it if you are with the right person to not swear it off or whatnot. The other thing is this : Sex is never going to be as good as you see on tv. Well, thats not true..i guess it depends. But often what you see on tv or GASP even porn, lol. Is way hyped up. Everyone is different. But just don't expect the first time to be all earth shattering-so in love you are going to faint afterwards. LOL. Just relax when going into it and go into it with no expectations.

As for your friends, keep telling them you have had sex if it makes you more comfortable. I did this for certain hard drugs, I would say if offered that I had done them but didnt anymore. i found it made it alot easier. If anyone asks just say that you have decided to take a hiatus from having sex, until you find someone worth having sex with