I agree with everyone's comments, you really are ahead of the game because you recognize the dysfunction, the next step is to get out of there! I'm not sure how old you are or what but you have to write down for yourself what you will put up with and what you won't put up with in YOUR LIFE and stick to that as best you can!

I personally come from a very dysfunctional family, very! There are things that I refuse to put up with that they do. For example, my mother has a tendency to try to publicly and privately humiliate me, for the longest time I did not visit her because of this. I would call occasionally, but would not go into the house because I just couldn't handle it because it would tend to send me further into a deep depression. She's currently in the hospital and my dd and I went to visit and she was okay, but there were subtle things going on that made me uncomfortable and has made it difficult for me to return. The bottom line is that you have to take care of yourself FIRST. I will not lie to you that the dysfunction has not scarred me because it has, but I try every day to be a better person. My family, however, resents that and feels like I think I am better... I cannot help what they believe, as I have told them over and over again, it is not that I think that I am better, I simply think that we ALL CAN AND SHOULD BE BETTER!

TJ