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Originally Posted by ArianeB
So I moved away from my BF several months ago. We'd met while I was living in a place far from home. I really didn't like it, couldn't make money, and wanted to move home. He didn't know if he wanted to move somewhere else with me, so, heartbroken and confused, I thought the best thing would be to move back and see what would happen. Three months later, he's had ups and downs about where our relationship will go (as have I), my work life is going great back at home though. Things are good. While he says he wants a future with me, the only concrete plan he's made to be together is to plan a quick visit coming up. Without any real sign that we'll have a long term future, this visit just makes me feel more sad. While I'm proud of how I've made a new life here, I feel like he'll find my life boring, and wonder why I don't have a more vibrant social life. Moreover, without knowing where things are going, I jus think I'll feel sad. Lately, when we talk on the phone, he barely asks about what I'm up to and always says he can't talk long. Without feeling support from him in the present, I'm so nervous about the visit and wonder what's the point. So confused. How should I approach this situation?
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hi dear,
I had kinda same situation with my ex boyfriend and he wanted to visit me when I just moved to the new location for job....I wasn't ready at all....I didn't have a place to stay even and he was planning his visit....I hate to think about it now....guys are so selfish....
I think you should just be relaxed and see what will happen....if you really don't feel comfortable him visiting you, then just tell him....doesn't he tell you that he's busy and can't have long talk on the phone? then you can tell him that you are busy and you don't want him to visit you now....be open and tell him your concern, whatever you have in your mind....don't be scared and don't get angry at him....you don't know how he will approach....If he's going to be your future husband, then you have to be comfortable telling him your thoughts....
take care and good luck...be brave
Marjan