i did it again tonight. as per other thread, i've got a mate who's in crisis - i want her to be ok so much but i can't be the only one she relies on - it's doing me in. i have exams which i'm bricking it about, i have the anniversary of my hero's death tomorrow, i have stress left right and centre and her stress doesn't help - i know that sounds awful, i will not desert her but she is so reliant - it sounds callous but if she could be stressed without involving me quite so much that would help - i don't mean to sound callous she's lovely and deserves good things but i CAN'T DO THIS