I agree with the others your wife is lucky to have such support. It sounds like to me she may be in denial about it. My granmother was the same way. She finally admitted she thought menopause was another sign of getting old. That's not true but until you go through it, you never know how you'll view menopause. So it may just be depressing her because she is thinking along the same lines. No one wants to feel old especailly a woman. I hope she gets better and gets help she needs.