Hi Neri -- you know, I DON'T photograph well, but my friend who invited me to yoga said that she understood, that she would do her best to support me in a weight-loss effort and she knows that I can lose the extra pounds. It was both refreshing and mortifying to have my friend be honest with me rather than simply tell me that I look great.

Do others really not judge me by it? I don't know... I think they do. At my 15th high school reunion, the women were so unbelievably catty about how our fellow classmates had turned out. I actually left the bathroom and went to the building next door I was so disgusted. And god forbid I ever run into my ex-husband... he always told me I was fat even when I weighed 115 lbs, so I'd be horrified if he could see me now.