Thanks for the feedback. I guess the reason I haven't cut and run already is that he has been very open and honest with me about his feelings and how he hates that she can still get to him. I think his biggest problem is that he still has a hard time believing she is the selfish user she has shown herself to be. I mean, she left him after 4 years telling him she hadn't loved him for the last 3, then moved to Washington state to live with a married couple with 2 kids so she could get knocked up by the husband!!! She kept telling him she wanting to be friends, yet she only contacts him when she wants attention! He is a very kind hearted person, and I think it's more the fact that he can't accept the rather horrible person she is now and has a very hard time hating anybody.

As long as he continues to be honest with me I see that as a good sign, but wonder how long is reasonable to give him in terms of working through his feelings or not? They've been broken up for over a year, but she just finally got out of his life in a more permanant manner a few months ago.