My dear sweet one, I know you are not the same generation then I but for me being called a hippy girl flower child would be a compliment as I am a hippy girl flower child. My boss calls me a flower child and he say it with much kindness in his voice.

I know what you mean by " the way she said it ". A word can be a compliment but can also be a sword depending how it is said.

Yes sometime we did not hurt the other person and we don't understand why this person is hurting us. Their reason is beyond our understanding probably because we haven't walked in their shoes therefor it is not clear to us.

At work today this customer came to me and as I saw her coming towards me, I smile and said good morning. She then stopped, looked at me and said " How come you are smiling at me when the other lady who works here just served me without a smile, almost as if I was bothering her? How come you smile at me? " I said " Because a smile is free and it is mine to give." She said " Thank you ".