The answer does not lie in controlling or taming. The answer does not lie in there is me and there is them. The answer lies in there is us.

one does not belong to the other.

How do you work with a teenager? You set reasonable limits and treat them with respect. Do you understand?

Skylrks is accurate. Everybody in your system is a human being. Treat them with respect and attempt to make them understand the need to cooperate for the benefit of the whole. All can learn this.