Thanks for the suggestions. Unfortunately he was in therapy for two years and got along great with the therapist. But he didn't really get anything from it. He didn't talk to the therapist much and in fact even fell asleep once in a session. So the therapist told me it was a waste of my time. I'm told there are therapists that act out behaviors as a form of therapy -- reenact situations so it can become realier in his mind. But I haven't been able to find one and don't know how to go about finding one.

I agree about telling him it's ok not to be perfect. But someone he's "wired" this way and no matter what I say he just doesn't get it. I need to find a male role model that he will listen to.