I've found that trying to have all female health care providers, even my dentist, help me a great deal. I still have anxiety, but it's much less having a woman doc.

Also, in a situation like an emergency where you have no choice, maybe grabbing a female nurse and letting her know briefly, that you are a sexual abuse survivor and very uncomfortable about things, she might provide some support and even let the male doctors know so that they are more care-full of you.

Other than that, I wish I could make your pain and flashbacks go away. But I can't. Time, Therapy and Taking good care of yourself will eventually make things better. We'll always be scarred, but the older the scar gets the less you see or feel it.