Thanks, I think I will ask her why she wants to live with her mom. We never really did ask her why. I know she has 2 little brothers that she enjoys. Her mom drops the 3 year old off at day care. She doesn't work either. She just can't deal with the kid, I guess. Tells you what kind of mom she is.
Fortunately, she doesn't ever give me the "you're not my mom" bit. She considers me and calls me "mom". I've known her since she was 2 and a half. We never refer to me as stepmom.
We took her up to the house the past 2 weekends and she helped us work. She loved it! She worked hard, too. I think that will help her adjust to the idea somewhat. She likes the house, just still doesn't want to move away though.