I was outside weeding in my front yard. A drizzle was falling, and this young woman with one baby in her arms, a grocery bag of clothing, and two small boys trailing her (probably age 3 and 4), dressed in pajamas and jackets, walked past my house. It was perplexing to see this, but I went on weeding for 10 minutes or so. I came inside, got my car keys, and drove out to find her, which I did, way over in town, still walking, trying to contain the two little boys on foot crossing traffic. I parked and went to her, told her i'd give her a ride to her destination. She had been at her dad's house, she said, and going to her ex husband's house across town. I asked where she lived, to which she replied she and the children are homeless at the moment. I asked, what about a women's shelter? to which she replied there was a two month waiting list, as well as a 6 month waiting list for a HUD residence. I don't know what to make of this. It's the most desperate thing I've ever seen! Perhaps there is more to the story and I am a big sucker. But those small children.
I did go thru my bank drive thru and got her $60, to which she kept asking, "Are you sure?" I assured her I was sure, and she admitted needing diapers. Who knows where the money will actually go...maybe to the ex for alcohol or drugs. I continued driving her to the ex's house which was still a couple of miles away! The little boys in the back seat were quiet and very sweet, thanking me as I let them out at the house.
Did I make a huge mistake here?
I think there must be another solution for shelter for this woman, but I'm unfamiliar with such situations. I do know I can't afford to be further involved.
Your imressions will be much appreciated...and tell me if I made a mistake.
Patty