Marjan, you have answered your own question. You are a 35 year old woman, acting like a teenager and trying to have a relationship with a man/boy who relates to you and others like a teenager.

Be the grown, adult woman you are. Don't accept less from the men in your life, expect them to act like men who have had some experience in life and want a committed relationship with a woman their own age.

Personally I don't think you will find someone like that at dance clubs. Go live your own life. Take care of the things that should be your priority in your life: yourself, your children, your job and any other responsibilities you have. In being yourself and taking care of who and what you should be taking care of, that is where you may find someone who is capable of giving you the relationship you need.

Trying to force a relationship to happen in an artificial setting is bound to end in disappointment and frustration. You deserve real love from a real man who is responsible and ready to act his age and be a real partner to you. That is who you should be looking for. Do not waste your precious time, your precious self, on others who are not worthy of you.