ok so this is a relatively minor problem, but it's seriously messing with my abilities to approach the dating scene. Objectively, I was a funny looking kid. My upper jaw was deformed, and I hade a crooked nose with a huge bump on it. Putting it politely I looked like a bird with a beak on a bad day. Orthodontia treatment restructured my jaw to be normal and at 16 I had a nose job to straighten it and smooth out the bump. but as a child and a teen I was always told I wasn't pretty and that it was a good thing I was smart since I'd never get anywhere with my looks. My mom wasn't that into makeup anyway, but she died when I was 13, so I never had a female role model to teach me about makeup and stuff. So in my head I have this firm belief that I'm unattractive. Looking at pictures of myself, I can objectively conceed that I'm not a dog. I have nice hair, and I like my eyes. I wear glasses, but I wear really stylish frames. I don't do makeup (It feels weird), and I'm a bit overweight. I try to dress attractively (Having 0 sense of fashion doesn't help.) But there's this disconnect with my brain. I look at picture's of myself, and see a relatively attractive self confident woman, but I don't recognize her as myself. It's a weird feeling.

So how do I get over believing that I'm still that funny looking kid?

--splitimage