Is it possible to just flat out change the way you communicate with a person? After a while I start to think that it's just me, but I can't understand how, with certain people, everything you say is interpreted as an attack? Even if I say it with a smile, its met by a defensive remark. I'm almost at my wit's end and can't, for the life of me, figure out how to fix it. Like I can pinpoint the problem, but have absolutely no idea how to solve it. I want to believe that people can learn to communicate effectively with each other and lose the feeling that everything is an attack but don't know how to go about it? And admittedly, I'm guilty of it too. I, too, interpret things as an attack just because of a simple tone change that was unintentional in the first place. Anyone know what I'm talking about or have any ideas? I am at a loss.