I lost my step-son in a car accident 4 years ago Apr 19. There is one wonderful woman in town who lost a son 20 years ago who said " you will never get "over" the loss of your child. and nothing will ever be "normal again. You learn a new sense of normal and you never, never forget. There will be things that will remind you of her. I like to think that it's their way of reminding us that they are watching over us. They are angels that come into our lives and bless us with the time we got to spend with them.

I know there have been people who told my husband to "get over it" or to "move on". This is not a get over or move on type of thing. Time may heal the pain, but it will never remove the memory. The thing that helped me was the meds I was already on for bipolar, but knowing and believing in my heart that I WILL see Adam again in heaven one day.

Some times talking to others can be difficult if they don't understand. Finding the right kind of grief support group can be real helpful. Know that you are not alone.