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Originally Posted by Pomegranate
(((Patricia))))
Thank you for the response and sharing your experience.  I'm sorry for both of us we had to go through what we did.
My brother was physically abusive to me as well, not extreme, but almost everytime he would even just walk past me, as children, he would hit me. I also fear his anger although I have not seen it flare for a long time. But it is part of the fear & anxiety I feel being around him.
Your brother sounds like a monster. Be careful and don't expect too much. He sounds like he might even increase the smirky cards to you if he knew they hurt you.   Good luck and take care of yourself.  |
Hi Pom,
I kept thinking about your sister in law. And I thought how difficult it must be for you to see your brothers children and not wonder knowing what you know to be true and possible.
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My brother was physically abusive to me as well, not extreme, but almost everytime he would even just walk past me, as children, he would hit me. I also fear his anger although I have not seen it flare for a long time. But it is part of the fear & anxiety I feel being around him.
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Good thing to remove yourself . You are not a punching bag. I know about the fear and anxiety, the shame once I faced it. I no longer want to be aroud him or see him again. I can no longer play dumb.
I didn't feel comfortable around him alone . When I visited him a year before I began therapy back in the 80's I spent a couple nights in his apartment and felt afraid on so many levels but i didn't know why because I repressed it,
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Be careful and don't expect too much. He sounds like he might even increase the smirky cards to you if he knew they hurt you.
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The last card he sent Of the bear ouside the tent by the ocean resembling me maybe having to live in my truck was postmarked from Fort lauderdale Florida.
Thats where our family used to vacation a few times for Christmas.
He was flaunting he had enouh money to take one . relaxing on the beach . I can see him over weight /drinking and with his red face laughing heckling about how he can make me feel bad. Which he has done so many times.
see, He doesn't know the entire truth . He blames me still.
Pom . I got an idea. Along with the final letter , me not wanting him to go feel to out of control he will no longer be able to pummel me . I'll give him some of his own messages back.
I was thinking this morning .Should I send a plain red small tear drop shaped one ? Or be more blatant and have one personalized for him. ..
Think he'd get the punch line?
Patricia