My best friend also lives extremely far away from me. Probably at least a nine hour drive. I only communicate with him through email. I've known him for 5 years now, and there have been lots of ups and downs in our communication. Sometimes we would go for months without talking, but in the end would find each other as the most understanding and helpful people we both know... What I'm getting at is that just because she isn't communicating right now doesn't mean that she won't ever do it again. The friend that I have is someone I used to talk to every single day for hours, and we would stay up late just talking about anything and everything. Now we both just don't have the time.

What I've done in the past when it's been a long time since I've heard from him is send an email asking him what's up in his life lately, and if everything's ok, and asking him to email me back whenever he gets the chance. I don't think that it would hurt to continue to email her with big updates in your life, so she knows what's going on with you, and maybe she'll feel more like she can open up to you if you open up to her first.

I don't know if that helped or not... but I didn't want you to feel like you had to give up on this friend of yours. I don't think you should give up at all.