What do you think when someone tells you this?

I had my T session this week and we were talking about my relationship with my H.
Short version:
We had a major issue occur last week where he uncovered some of my personal drawings two of which clearly were related to our relationship. He TOTALLY flipped out and in dealing with the situation... he asked me if I had been abused. When directly confronted with this question... I admitted that I had suffered some abuse in my childhood. I refused to discuss it with him in detail but I needed to let him know so he could appreciate that there were some other factors playing out in with me in addition to some of the stuff the two of us are dealing with.

When discussing this situation with my T and how I handled the situation, I mentioned that I think I said the right things to him but that.... I had no emotions to back it up. When I tried to look inside for how I was actually feeling during this emotional exchange... "there was nothing there." Even though I was trying to be honest and authentic in what I said to him.... I felt like I was just...saying the words or going through the motions. This bothered me a lot.

My T's response to this was, "Well sometimes you have to do what the 12-step program tells people with addiction to do... "Fake it or act as if you think you should until you feel that way." This statement really bothered me on two levels. 1) I have been working really hard to figure out what I am really, authentically feeling about stuff and trying to act accordance with that... I'm really good at FAKING it, I've done that all my life. 2) I didn't like being told to do something that an addict is told to do. I'm not an Addict or an Alcoholic. My father was the alcoholic, my brother is the one with substance abuse issues... I know I am being reactive and I am NOT IN ANYWAY judging people who have or are the process of overcoming these issues. I just IDK... I didn't like the ...fake it until you can make yourself feel it idea.

I'm just curious if any of your therapist/counselors tell you this?