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Originally Posted by thelionkinglives
Here's the best case scenerio...but somebody is going to be rightfully pissed off & somebody is going to have egg on their face & need to kiss a lot of butt. However, you will definantly have your answer.
I do agree on the surface you did a lot of prying over something so trivial..the email said "Hi"
However, sometimes a woman's gut is an instinctual thing & sometimes it's just insecurity.
Here's a gutsy offer. You push him to let you see all the messages he's sent her on that spot immediately. You may tick him off because you are letting off some serious vibes at this point. When this is over one of the 2 of you are going to have every right to be mad, one of you are going to have egg on their face.
Assuming he gives you access to the letters...then you will know if it was innocent or something more. If he is involved with her, he's busted & you have your answer. If he didn't....he's going to have every right to be pissed at you. In which case you need to appologize for being insecure & say stuff like "the though of losing you just drives me crazy" Make him feel like king ***** for a couple weeks & he will probably get over.
The question is, would that temporary embarassment be worth the piece of mind of knowing from that point on you have a decent man.
I agree with both other post. There isn't much evidence but also doesn't completely past the smell test...Your decision...I would risk looking like a fool for a little bit to feel that I wasn't played for a fool  |
Thank you for the advice.
I had already tried this "method" though. lol
I asked him to show me the emails or even tell me what was said. He said they were deleted and that they "never really talked about anything."
With the exception of one, I was told they were sent from his work account.
I stumbled upon the last email by mistake, checking to see if a file I sent
from his laptop to my pc was still in the "sent" folder there. That's how I found out about the situation.
I continued to question him though (my bad) and was told that my mother had told him to go out and "have fun" by himself that night/weekend. He was trying to pass the blame onto her in a way. And, that the female in question tracked him down, by finding his employers' website (the school board) and finding his email address from the site's directory.
He also told me that in one email she had said she told her fiance
she had been talking to him, and he said it was okay as long as they weren't having lunch dates, or more. I also asked him if he told her that he was married, he wouldn't give me an answer for that, either.
After a long night of arguing, I just wanted to try to move on and forget things. Knowing the type of personality I have, this won't be easy.
I'd like to think, if something were going on, forget it. I guess it evens out for all the times I let him down with my mood swings/disorders.
Thanks everyone for your input!
