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thelionkinglives · Apr 16, 2009, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by KathyM

LionKing

I found it strange because race wasn't relevant in your story. You were referring to domestic violence between a man and a woman. If it had been a white couple fighting, would you have made a point to state their race? You went on to describe the hairstyle of the black man, but said nothing about the physical appearance of the white woman.

It's a thorn in my side because people often like to portray black men as dangerous - feeding the stereotype. They also like to portray white women who date black men as either weak or unlovable. It wasn't necessary for you to mention either race because we are not the police and can do nothing about the crime.

How would it sound if I said: "I saw a man with a big nose pulling a red-haired woman out of her house. I get frustrated when the women go back to them. Maybe I should become a hermit." Wouldn't it sound a little confusing? Don't you think someone would question my use of the word "them" - i.e., men in general, or just men with big noses / women in general, or just those with red hair?

Just trying to help you understand the other side of the coin.

At this point, I've acknowledge I understood your sensitivity with it & could see the initial reaction.
I have adequately explained in great detail my precise reason for what & why I posted it the way I posted it.
I live my life understanding the other side of the coin.
I tutor & coach young boys & girls in a poor area, where I am the minority.
I am a person who is always pointing out injustices in defense of these particular groups of kids.

I wasn't going to go here but you keep pushing a little. I did not go into describing her 1. because she wasn't the assailant 2. Because her face was facing down toward the cement dripping blood & she was being dragged by her hair down the street. Since she wasn't on her feet I could not see how tall she was, I could not see what color her eyes were, etc.

As for the big nose thing...I get where your going but if the man's nose is large enough to be a distinguishing feature then it's relevant.

One last time, I did acknokledge immediately I could see "your side of the coin' by pointing out the issues I'm aware you face.

if it's an apology your looking for, it won't happen I did nothing wrong. It's simply 2 different perspectives from each of our own realities.

If you still feel as though there was stereotyping in the post in anyway & still feel that way after my coherient, logical explanation then it's simply you mis-projecting your grievances on to me personally, which I'm not willing to absorb.