I think the most important thing is that you both feel that youre comfortable with it. Everyone has to have alone time and time to themselves and it doesn't really matter when that happens. Ive read several studies that show women sleep better without a partner. And just from my own personal experience I can tell you that, when my boyfriend stays over for several days in a row, I don't get a good night's sleep at all. He moves around and talks in his sleep and wakes me up a few times everynight lol.

It's really none of their business how you guys run your marriage anyway but I can see them being concerned. But, as I'm sure you know, families are always in your business no matter what so it's to be expected I think. So my advice would be, if you and your husband talk it out and are both sure that it doesn't indicate any problems then just put your foot down. The next time someone says something you have to be firm and say that whatever makes your marriage healthier is what you have to do, and if this does it then so be it.

To get some alone time my boyfriend and I go to the gym but we work out in different areas so that we have a few hours to ourselves to do what we want, and working out relaxes us both so that's what we do. And I'm sure there are plenty of people out there that would say "why would you go together but not be there together?" and, well, that's none of their business. It's a way for us to feel together but still have time to ourselves and what you're doing is no different. And if you both are satisfied with your sex lives then I don't see a problem. Some people are just very independent and there's nothing wrong with that. Consider yourself lucky that you and your husband have the same feelings on it because I think, in this type of situation, almost always, one of the people involved would have a problem with it so that's good that you're both on the same page.

So just put your foot down and be firm and let them know that if there was anything going on, they would know about it.