If I haven’t met someone in an AA meeting that I don’t like, I’m not going to enough meetings.
The rooms are filled with people just like me, imperfect souls. Sometimes they say or do things that doesn’t set all that well with me. Sometimes they are just plain wrong.

But there is an axiom in AA that goes like this, “When I am upset, there is always something wrong with me”.

I read your post, and if the situation is as you put it, then they were indeed wrong. The book says that is as far as most of us took it.
It’s their fault.
The more important question I need to ask myself is what was my part in the deal. What if anything did I do to contribute to the situation.
Another thing the book suggests is to forgive wrongs done to me. Not because those people who wronged me will be better for it, but because if I can’t or won’t forgive them I may well turn a thoughtless slight into a resentment. And that is a real problem.

That said, my home group is very important to me. It is a place where I take strength. If that group can no longer provide that environment, then I should continue my growth by replanting myself somewhere else. But before I do anything, I talk it over with my sponsor. And even more importantly I talk it over with my higher power. If I get a green light from both of them, then I take action.

On the road to the good stuff,
Richard S.