My husband and I have been married for 12 years. Early on I would try to talk which would change to venting then yelling, screaming and raging. He would shut down and not say a word which just infuriated me. I was finally diagnosed with bipolar and my emotions finally made some sense, but we have lost the abilty to communicate and to listen. We have tried couples counceling, but I know that if neither one of us is willing to change the way we talk we are going no where fast. What do you do? What can I do? He says he is willing to work on it, but he hasn't made a move towards seeking help. I have bought books, but he won't read them. It is always up to me. I feel that I always am making the decisions on what we do, where we go, what we eat. I'm tired of making all the choices. Help!