Hi Everyone,
it has been a year now since my brother passed away. He died from alcohol poisoning and they say it was suicide. He battled alcoholism for 40 yrs. When it happened my oldest brother flew 4 hours to come to the funeral. When I was reading the notice in the paper to see when the visiting hours were schedualed, to my shock there wasn't any - only a notice for a memorial service. I called his home and his daughter said that he was already cremated. I was stunned and angry. Later I called my sister-in-law and her only logical explanation was - that she and her daughter can't stand to be around a dead body. I get shaky just writing about it now. I told her how could she have done this -that she should have called us and we could gone in by ourselves and payed our respects. I told her how hurt I was that she only cared about how she felt. To me part of the grieving process in seeing that person.
Two years prior to this, her own mother died and she didn't mind being in the room with her casket. Not only did I suffer the pain of my brothers suicide, but also the pain of not seeing him one last time -I feel I was dealt a double whammy. Can anyone understand how I feel.