My Support Forums - View Single Post - "Fake it till you make it" or "Act as if"

(JD) · Apr 17, 2009, 05:39 PM

((((EVERYONE)))

Please know that while the statement itself might irritate you, it presents a very good concept: continue to do what you know is good, telling yourself the right way and thinking the right thoughts...and eventually you will BE how you are "faking" it, and you will THINK the good way you are patterning yourself to.

Trauma causes some of the symptoms - or lack of feelings - like you described. It takes a lot of positive affirming thoughts and actions and speech to bring it all to a good normal again. But this is not the "faking it" that you may have had to do all the time to keep others from "finding out" something you fear about yourself or history. This is a purposeful response, something you know is a good response, even though you aren't "feeling it" at the time.