Bonaire, you have no idea how much I appreciate your openess and honesty with this. I really struggle because I know my partner wishes we had sex more, however, I'm hardly ever in the mood and when I am sometimes it lasts for less than a minute it seems. Plus, I really don't enjoy sex that much. My husband and I probably average once every two or three weeks. We've done it twice in one day, but we've also gone over two months without. It's really hard to talk about sometimes considering average 21 year old newlyweds tend to do it a heck of a lot more than we do. It's nice to know we arn't alone and that there are others who are happily married but still have issues in this department.