this will probably trigger, so please be careful.

i was reading up on google books last night. i came across a book which listed different types of s*xual acts, and also listed them in order of severity and intrusiveness (least to worst).

i feel awful after reading it. my experience of what hurt the most don't conform with that scale. it makes me angry and upset that someone could classify different acts in that way, and be considered authoritative enough to even get it published in a treatment manual. it was supported by the US's National Center on Child Abuse and Neglect.

here is the list, with least severe/intrusive listed first (like they did in the book):

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ok. sorry - i started typing it out but i couldn't finish it off. here is a link to the book, the list starts on page 12. http://books.google.com.au/books?id=...ummary_r&cad=0

i was just hoping for some thoughts/responses. maybe even some hugs if anyone has any to spare tonight. i've been having a really difficult time with this lately, and i think i might trigger myself on purpose sometimes .