[widgets]

Food. Smoking. Drinking and Robert (my best friend, being best friends with him is bad for me)
I need to stop them all but it's overwhelming cutting out four huge parts of my life.
2 months ago I began eating healthily and have lost 20 pounds.
That's good.
I've managed to cut down my drinking from every weekend to every other weekend.
That's a start.
I don't text Robert and have seen him twice in 5 weeks.
That's bloody hard.
I tried cutting down my smoking this week and have put on a pound in doing so.

Some of these conflict each other when trying to give up, for instance stop smoking I eat more, smoke more i eat less.
Where as, by making the decision not to drink I will lose weight, not have a reason to see Robert and won't smoke as much.
So the drinking needs to be the first point hopefully the Robert thing will just happen naturally if I'm not drinking. Then dieting I need to keep that up, it's just I'm thinking I may try and quit smoking when i have the other 3 under control?
What do you think?

[madisgram]

widgets, perhaps try to do one at a time. tackling everything at once may set you up for failing at all 4.

[Willcat]

I agree with madisgram, I would just pick one problem to work on at a time.

SMART Recovery Tool may help you with all 4 problems. SMART Teaches tools and techniques for self-directed change. And that can help with many problems.

[advena]

It sounds like you have a good plan, tackling your drinking first. I was taught in the rooms to address the addiction most immediately detrimental to my health, and thats usually drinking.