[chalmette70043]

I saw my T today and she wants me to go to 90 meetings in 90 days. I told her the church where the meetings are don't have meetings every day of the week. She said to then just go to the days they have one. I don't think i need AA that bad. I'm going to go to the meeting tonite at 7 and see what its all about. I'll probably just sit there and listen. I won't be brave enough to talk.

What was the first meeting for ya'll like? Did you do 90 meetings in 90 days? Did you talk?

thanks
chalmette

[splitimage]

My first meeting was ok. It was actually kind of nice. I went on a Sun. I was still half drunk. The first thing I saw was a big sign saying "You are no longer alone". Wow that really struck me, because I felt so lonely. I'd been told by the guy I'd talk to on the AA phone lines to ask for the group secretary when I got there and introduce myself as someone new. So I did that. She was really nice. She gave me a bunch of phamphlets about alcoholism and AA, and she gave me a Big Book. She wouldn't let me pay for it. I argued with her, 'cause I still had a good paying job at the time, but she said nope her group gave all newcomers a Big Book. There was a speaker. I remember thinking as I heard her story that if I'd had had her life I'd drink too. I found it kind of hard to believe that she'd gotten sober. After the meeting lots of people came up to me and talked to me and gave me their phone numbers. They asked me if I drank everyday, and I said "well Duh, of course" and they told me to go to a meeting every day. Wish I'd listenned. My life might have turned out different.

The 90 meetings in 90 days is often suggested to newcomers as it gives you a solid base of sobriety, assuming you don't drink between meetings. But if you can't physically do it, I'd encourage you to go to as many meetings as you can.

If you don't want to talk, you can just say your name and something like "I just want to listen tonight." and it will be ok.

You can do this.

splitimage

[Gus1234U]

i went to AA to learn skills, and understand how i was caught in an endless loop, to see if there was a way out. getting sober is a 'job o' work', and the Big Book is a guide. the group thing is comforting, but you have to do the real work, if you want to actually get better... best wishes,, Gus

[missbelle]

Well my son went....and went and got sober........and relapsed and then got sober again and is sober now. He also went to 90 meetings in 90 days. All meetings are different. You have to go to different one to find which ones you like. Thy are not all alike. That's why it's really good to go to a few different places to check out the meetings. I know if you are in a small town thats hard but there are awesome meetings on-line as well. You can attend without leaving your place.

I go to al-anon which is a group for parents, friends etc of alcoholics. We follow the same 12 steps. I find it something that everyone can use. Its helped me to just live.

Try it out, meet some people, and go to as many meetings as you can in different places inc. the internet.

Nothing ventured nothing gained.....you might find it helps!!

Thinking of you;

[chalmette70043]

I went to the meeting. I didnt have a good experience. it was three people there. I stood outside the door for about 10 minutes. I just smoked a cigarette and listened to the two people there talk. When the door opened we all went in and sat around this little table. the guy that was in charge of the meeting introduced himself and the two other people and me. then the guy in charge gave us each a paper with these steps on them. We all read some. Then they just started talking to each other. None of them even looked at me. And there was alot of god talk. In those steps and what they were talking about. Since a traumatic experience i've lost my faith and don't believe anymore. So it made me very uncomfortable. I wanted to get up and walk out. But i stayed. At the end of the meeting they recited something together. And the meeting was over. they stood around talking. And i just left.

I felt like i wasnt even welcome there. I wasn't as scared as i thought i would be. So i would have responded. I'm not going back there on wednesday. I might try another day. Maybe it will be different. this meeting has me all depressed now and i want a drink.

But for sure i'm going to try the aa online meetings like missbelle talked about.

Thank ya'll
chalmette