[Leed]

"Why are we surprised when fig trees bear figs?" .................Margaret Titzel

A frequent source of discomfort and pain with us is unrealistic expectations. One of the greatest of these is expecting sane, rational, trusting behavior from those who may well not have it to give.

Alcoholism is a form of insanity - perhaps not the committable kind, but a disease that renders the victim incapable of behavior that most would call normal. Until the advent of recovery the alcoholic is subject to a bewildering assortment of delusions, denials, manipulations, and subterfuges. In short, non-recovering alcoholics are incapable of functioning in healthy relationships.

When we expect anything more from a loved and beloved non-recovering alcoholic, we are setting ourselves up for heartbreak. Fig trees bear figs, not peaches. What we are able to do emanates from what we are, not from what we wish we were.
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Today, I will not frustrate myself with unrealistic expectations. What I cannot change, I will accept.

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Hi Leed,

This is totally true but sometimes even if we know what is wrong and what is better for ourselves, we end up giving up on our promises that we make to ourselves and others.

I think to break a habit/ addiction it takes lot more that willpower. I hope that I will soon be able to figure this out.

I tried to go cold turkey with my addictions but it did not work and now I am back at square one. I think I need to go add something other things like involving myself with this community etc. as replacement.

Sometimes I tend to think there is going to be turnaround in my life like they show in movies. Haha but this totally does not work. This is really funny. I think it take lot more time, patience and most importantly persistence. I just can not keep blaming myself I give up. I need to persist.

I think in human context 'fig tree bear figs' has little relevance. I mean if you have that small frame in our heart and you are aware about this, then we surely can convert that flame into fire. Hope this make sense.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.