[Ellie80]

My father agreed to go to a local intensive outpatient addiction treatment center. I brought up his addiction (alcoholism) for the first time last week & he agreed he had a problem & said he would go. He is in his early 50's and has been an alcoholic since before I was born. I am in therapy an recently accepted his addiction. I have shame through the roof. My mother divorced him and she said he never agreed to get help when they were married or even after when he tried over and over to get back together with her. We don't have any other family around here so it will be just me involved in this for right now. I am worried he is going to pull some BS at the appointment tomorrow. This all seems too easy. Any feedback helps. Im terrified.

[roads]

Yes it does sound too easy. Of course it's possible that he's just hit his "bottom" and is ready to get some help--being a drunk loses its charm, and eventually most drunks admit it.
You don't really give enough description about what's going on between you two, so I'd suggest that if he does turn this into a trickster thing & shoots some BS at you, you turn your back on him and walk away. If he's not ready, it's not going to work--so don't waste your energy.
Roadie

[Ellie80]

Roadie, i feel like when people hit their bottom they are the ones who speak up (if they want help). I think my father is scared to loose me and I have been distant for the past year....b/c this past year I accepted he is an alcoholic and I think I tried to emotionally pull away. I told him I have been distant bc of his alcoholism. He was very upset about something earlier that day & i think he was emotionally vulnerable and open when i spoke to him. I think the timing may have been right. Do people do this? Go to seek help while knowing they are going to bs them?

[roads]

Sure, if he's a BS kinda guy in general. I mean, if that's the way he usually tries to duck dealing with things. But he must see that there is no "give" in you in this. Don't let him side-track. You onto another subject.

[Ellie80]

He is not really a BS kind of guy. He would tell my mom in the past that ya he gad a problem but there was nothing she could do about it. He is actually one of the most reliable & dependable people i know which is CRAZY b/c he is an alcoholic.

How might he side track me?

[loji]

My Father who has been addicted for last 20 years. And my mother who died when I was 10 years of old. Now I am 28 years. I don't have any siblings and my only hope is my Father. Two months before by god's grace he realized his mistakes and he himself went to an addiction treatment center Bellwood Health service in Toronto. Now believe me he completely changed and become a good father for me. So don't worry one day your father will realize his mistake and hope for the best.

[Altered Moment]

My father who is an alcoholic quit on his own when my mom threatened to leave him. Our family did an intervention. He has not had a drink in over 20 years.

I would highly expect they are going to require him to go to AA meetings. My dad refused to go. This is where he might balk. I have been clean and sober 18 years and there is no way I could have done it without AA. I would be very surprised if an intensive out patient threatment center was not based on a 12 step program. Almost all are.